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confidence, a game changer.

So, you've lost your mojo. Maybe you've been affected by an unfortunate event, or a relationship has just ended, and as a result, you're feeling a bit low. Your self-esteem has plummeted, sending you into a negative, toxic mindset, affecting your entire life, (whether you realise it or not.)


Okay, okay. You've heard it all before. But I promise you becoming confident in yourself is one of the best gifts you could ever give yourself.


Wherever it stems from, everyone has moments of insecurity or feeling low, and that's normal. However, please don't forget we are all human, and prone to feeling down. But babe, you're losing your glow.


You may be asking: "How can I go about becoming confident?" and just know that most people are just as lost as you are. This sounds cringey, but hype yourself up. We are all FAR too harsh on ourselves, and have completely unrealistic expectations for ourselves. I saw a tweet the other day which said 'Why do I feel so ashamed of myself because I'm not earning 100k a year and buying my own house at 20?'. The truth is, there is a certain 'standard' that people are shown (often through social media) and feel like they have to live up to. Go at your own pace. Breathe. Remember nobody's perfect, including you, and not compare your life to anyone else's. Appreciate the wonderful things that make you you. Your laugh, your eyes, your smile. Write out your achievements, from the smallest things (successfully managing to boil an egg) to the largest wins (getting that new promotion at work). You'll see how courage and perseverance overtime bring your success. Over time you'll see there's a whole journey ahead of you, with endless possibilities.


I've been seeing a lot of videos on TikTok recently, joking about how being confident won't work and doesn't make you more attractive, but I truly think it does. There's a TikTok account called @heyimboredwhatsup which is basically their own personal fan page. I was scrolling through my for you page, and when I first came across them I was a bit taken aback. Their confidence was bordering on being obnoxious, and every single video was about how amazing they were. When I first saw this account, I didn't really find the owner attractive at all, but have since developed a big phat crush. (*sighs in here we go again*. )

But the point is that whilst initially I didn't feel attracted towards them, because of their confidence I have since (subconsciously) changed my mind. In my own life, once I started coming out of my shell, I realised that not everyone was as scary as I thought they were. I quickly made new friends and received positive attention, all because I found it in myself to stand on my own two feet and become my own person. (trust me, it's the best feeling ever!!)


I also firmly believe that once you are confident in yourself, you gain control over your life, and thus, you gain control over your successes and gains. Write your ambitions and goals down, and focus on them and them alone. From personal experience, once I started focussing on the things that really mattered the most to me, everything else just fell into place. That is actually one of the big reasons I felt able to come out of my shell and talk to new people. Of course, I have moments of insecurity and doubt, but everyone does. I quickly banish them from my mind and focus on my progress or success instead.


I'm going to leave you now with my favourite confidence playlist & a quote from my TikTok crush; 'Always remember, pain is temporary, sexiness is forever'.


all my love,

n x



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